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23 Feb 06, he went back hometown already. he told me want take leave for 2-3 weeks go back hometown and take a rest because pressure at here. So, i never ask him don't go back because i know he already more than 1 year never go back hometown meet his family. So, it also good for him to take a rest. But i feel lonely because he no around me and very miss him. want call him but i promise him that i don't want disturb him when he go back hometown because i want him take a rest. Somemore the pressure he mean also including me. Feel very sad when i know that the pressure also including me given him but when he at airport, i ask him again then he said just sometime only and he said he told me his feeling because he want keep this relationship long so each other better can understand. Because when the 1st time he tell me, he never make it clear that "just sometime" only, so the statement that he told me like recorder and alway play in my mind and make my heart very hurt. i hurt because i really don't know when i give him pressure, because i never force him do something that he don't like. maybe everyday i will ask him what time will go off from office kua! but i ask is not want him go off early to accompany me, is i want know around what time so that i can plan for my own time also and no need wasting time to wait for him. i want try erase the statement from my mind but it very hard because i very care this relationship...nevermind, i will try again to erase something that is no happy in my mind...
posted by susanlim29 @ 4:47 PM
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hi there...
don't be sad... just give some time.. some air to breathe for each other.. just my comments.. don't really know... or mayb based on my character... i prefer more carefree... anyway.. u are much much more emotional and much much more 'feeling' .. i know .. u're this kind of ppl.. never tired to care for ppl... and really really sincere in everything u do..
i also donno how to ease ur mind.. cause i am not that type of ppl... should i agree or provoke ur current feeling as u are now? or discourage u from feeling like dat.. just think logically and be prepared for watever coming... life is like a blink of eye.. comes and go as it please... never waits for u..
mayb put hope, rather than thinking it negatively.. would be a better way. mayb within this time, u can think of how to be more creative and take new approach toward a positive relationship.. hehe.. coming from someone without an experience.. quite weird isn't it.. but rather.. i learn from movies.. haha and my own logical thinking... just be urself...
anyway.. wish u best of all... hope you would be able to join us during aichan wedding and cameron trip..??
Thank you for give me comment. ya! sometime i very tired to think for ppl and care for ppl but that is my character. i try to don't care but fail. like i live in this world is for ppl. sometime i cry because feel tired, i just want give myself feel better. cry better than i hurt myself like last time right? so, can said ppl think that i alway cry for no reason. he also think like that. actually how much he understand me, why just me go and understand ppl. ya! i also need take the chance to refresh myself but problem is my job never give me a rest.
Susan...don't be so sad. Take it as a times testing for both of you. Both of you so hard to reach this level of relationship, don't because of small pressure, you become unhappy. I know relationship sure got pressure, everyone facing it too, not just you. This shows that both of you really cared for this relationship, that's why comes pressure. However, pressure can be eased la. Don't think so much. One statement from his mouth already make you worry like hell *grin*. You should trust him mah.
i am the type of ppl like you too..Actually, im always understand ppl, but i really dun understand myself. I dun understand myself, untill now also. I am afraid, if one day, i really get to know what type of ppl i am. What shall i do?
So, let it be la. Sometimes you cannot bother so much la. hehe.
hope you can join the cameron trip la..
希望對方改進缺點之前，先問問自己的對待方式，有沒有需要改進的地方？
想向對方提出抱怨時，不妨先問他：「我有什麼地方需要改進呢？」
Try to communicate honestly, then there's won't have any mis-understanding between u both!
Be Cheers!
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>:D< hug hug susan,
i totally understand your situation. it's the same here. last time my bf work until 4am mornin (freelance work), i woke up from my sleep and i asked him "eh, u dun wanna sleep ar?". my concern is his health that time coz only sleep for few hours then need to go office again, and this process repeat a long time. but he took it as i was trying to control him. that was the cause of all the rest of the problems. he felt i was trying to pressure him. which i didnt lor.
so now i move out... which i think it's good for both of us. i need time to think for myself too...
the break for a while is good la... use this time to do the things u wanna do... u have a digicam? go around town and take pictures, then laugh at the unexpected things u see in the pics :-D (then can post online, like my photoblog hehe)... read books and other things... go jogging but be careful... only go to crowded park... u need a rest too...
i duno if this may help but these are the things i did last time. even tho the final decision is me moving out, the decision was made after a not-too-short discussion.
i hope thing with me and you will turn out fine and great. dun worry, every relationship has its ups and down...
其实，只要你问心无愧，就没什么问题。有时候，彼此只是需要一些空间。深呼吸后，就没事了。告诉你一个好消息，今天我回去麻坡拿我的车，刚买的，好兴奋！！！
i feel like a fool that i staying ur place over night but never hear u say anything....
Seems u were spending the time to make me feel better onli...
Sigh...
Wat a failure I am to be a friend of urs...
Hi all, thank you very much for give me a lot of comment. Honey, the question actually we both alway ask each other because we try to maintain our relationship and it also get a good response from each other. that is a good way for each other talk. June, thank for ur suggestion. hmm..actually after i stay in SG, i seldom do exercise because everyday walk too much already so already tired. stay in SG life is everyday walk, run to catch bus or train. some more in company i also run to production side because i don't want wasting my time. but normally i just stay in room then listen radio and clean my room. but last weekend i very lucky bcoz got Kit, Beh, Hwang, my fren + my fren's husband accompany me. if not i really don't know how to pass my day. anyway, thanks for ur suggestions. besides, congratulation because get ur new car already. Kit, 1st i want to said sorry because i didnt sleep well so alway hit u. hmm..actually is i spend my time with you to make myself feel better. because if i alone then i will miss him until i cry. But everything will be ok because maybe he go back hometown then i think too much also. the important thing is we both still care each other. yesterday my phone low batt and it off by own and i don't know when it off. but suddenly my fren get a call which is from him. that time i just know that he can't call in my phone because my phone already off. i faster go n charge my phone and he call in again. that time, i just know that he very worry abt me. after chat with him, i just know he also sms me a lot of msg but i never reply because i don't know. the way he worry me at least still let me think that he care abt me. thank for your all because care abt me too. i know what i need to do already, answer is "dont thing too much"! haha..!! i will try it..thanks all..
wei, that type of run is not exercise la!!! wah lao... do housework sweat also not exercise OK!!! wear ur jogging shoes and go running...
haha..!!lazy la! unless his accompany me. last time we both will go and play basketball although i don't know but he will teach me. anyway, about 3 months we didnt go and play already because we both also busy. c la! will go if i free and some1 can accompany me. hihi..!!
wah lao... cannot lazy.... hehe. actually me also lazy! hahahahahahahha
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